I took it personally and decided to answer him
For your convenience, I will pick up the exact words from my previous post and agrue.
Tomorrow you may get a working woman, but you should marry her with these facts as well.
Here is a girl, who is as much educated as you are;
Who is earning almost as much as you do;
One, who has dreams and aspirations just as you have because she is as human as you are;
This is true. I hope there is no doubt about that. Yes, I am as educated as my husband would be and might as well earn as much as he does. I am quite capable of earning that much. I too have some dreams, some of which may remain unfulfilled once I get married.
One, who has never entered the kitchen in her life just like you or your Sister haven't, as she was busy in studies and competing in a system that gives no special concession to girls for their culinary achievements
One, who has lived and loved her parents & brothers & sisters, almost as much as you do for 20-25 years of her life;
One, who has bravely agreed to leave behind all that, her home, people who love her, to adopt your home, your family, your ways and even your family ,name
One, who is somehow expected to be a master-chef from day #1, while you sleep oblivious to her predicament in her new circumstances, environment and that kitchen
One, who is expected to make the tea, first thing in the morning and cook food at the end of the day, even if she is as tired as you are, maybe more, and yet never ever expected to complain; to be a servant, a cook, a mother, a wife, even if she doesn't want to; and is learning just like you are as to what you want from her; and is clumsy and sloppy at times and knows that you won't like it if she is too demanding, or if she learns faster than you;
I have never cooked an entire meal and have never even stepped into the kitchen to do the dishes, clean, or anything. I too was always busy studying when I was a kid and even when I grew up. Infact I was never allowed to enter the kitchen like many other girls, not because we would dirty the kitchen or would hurt ourselves, but because our mothers never wanted us to work till the time we get married. My parents have always let me study and even keep up with my extra curricular activities. Those who have seen me grow up, they know that every year I was a part of something exciting be it lawn tennis, painting, reading, swimming, skating, music. Every year I indulged myself in these actuvities basically for three reasons: One, my parents wanted to keep me busy (and away from the kitchen coz somewhere they knew that I would have to do this after I get married just like my mom did), Two, I was allowed to chose the field that interested me the most, and Three, they loved me a lot and wanted me to excel in every field.
Just like any other woman, and men too, I have lived with my parents, my family, my relatives all these years. Never have I lived away from them. And if guys argue that they have lived away from their parents, then I must add that girls do the same. They too go to schools and colleges away from home. They too live in hostels.
Women know that once they get married, they would have to leave their home and their loved ones and go into a house (which is not a home for her the first day she sets her foot in).
Why are there traditions where the (newly married) girl has to cook an entire meal for the entire family in the new house and the new environment. Why is the kitchen left to all to herself. And if she spills the milk out of nervousness or leaves the kitchen dirty because she doesnt know what is kept where, why does she get to hear that she is jinxed. Why does she has to wake up early in the morning to cook breakfast for everybody when the scoundrel she married is fast asleep because sex kept him awake and drained all the energy out of him last night. Didn't it do the same to the girl. No, she got more than that. Pain too. Then where do the demands come from. All by herself, without her family but with her husband whom she expects would take her side, she works without uttering a word against anybody. Wouldn't I do that even if I don't know how to cook. I feel sorry for those parents who have a daughter.
One, who has her own set of friends, and that includes boys and even men at her workplace too, those, who she knows from school days and yet is willing to put all that on the back-burners to avoid your irrational jealousy, unnecessary competition and your inherent insecurities;
One, who can be late from work once in a while whendeadlines, just like yours, are to be met;
Yes, guys get jealous when the girl has a past. She leaves everything behind to join him and have a future of their own. The guy too has had a past. If he meets his girl friends, then its nothing but when she meets her boy friends she becomes characterless.
And yes, she too has deadlines to meet. She too gets loaded with work. She gets the same weekly off as you do. And I too would get that.
One, who is doing her level best and wants to make this most important, relationship in her entire life a grand success, if you just help her some and trust her;
One, who just wants one thing from you, as you are the only one she knows in your entire house - your unstinted support, your sensitivities and most importantly - your understanding, or love, if you may call it.
She works day and night to make the relationship work but she can't do it all alone. She needs you. The suport, the love, the trust. She doesn't know anybody in the new house except you and still wants to nake them smile coz they are related to you. All she wants is you to be there right beside her and to hold her hand and take her out of the mess which she might put herself into coz she just entered a new environment.
I dont say that all men are the same and none of them do anything for their wives. No, thats not true. Hell, no. I am happy to be born at the time I was born. I see men doing a lot for their wives. If I don't know how to cook, that does not mean that I will not be a good wife nor does it mean that I cannot keep up with the relationship.
There is another thing that @ease pointed out. He feels that daughters get more attention and care than sons do. And I agree with him. But the answer to this question is so related to what daughters have to go through. The parents know that their daughter would leave them once they have attained marriageable age. So they want to shower all their love and care for the 25 years that they get with their daughters in contrast to the lump sum 40 years that they get with their sons. Yes, there is a difference.